HABITS
They say to train an elephant they put chains around its feet ie so it won’t escape and will follow orders. Initially the chains are very tight; the elephant tries to get free without success. Over a period of time the chains are loosened but the elephant still can’t escape. Eventually the chains are removed but the elephant has given up escaping by then and doesn’t realise the chains have been removed!
We are more negative than positive but many of us are not aware of that fact. That is one habit that needs to be changed, negativity causes dis-ease, plus what we focus on is what we get. So let’s think positive thoughts and attract what we want into our lives, rather than more of what we don’t want.
Whatever we focus on becomes our idea of reality – Anthony Robbins
CREATE NEW HEALTHY HABITS
It is said to take 21 days for a new habit to become ingrained. If you are making a positive change to enhance your well-being, such as starting regular exercise, or cutting down on chocolate, practice this new discipline for 21 days so that it becomes second nature to you. Like driving – do you think about what you are doing, or when you get dressed, take a shower, clean your teeth?
You have many habits in your life that you do without giving any thought to. It isn’t necessary to give any thought as to how to get dressed, apart from choosing what you want to wear. But if you visited a country where their attire is very different to our western styles, you might not know how to wear the new clothes and therefore struggle to dress yourself. Would you know how to wear the outfit of a Whirling Dervish for example or that of a Geisha? You would have to learn a new habit of how to dress yourself.
You can’t change the past, but you can change the way you view it.
Habits may seem hard to change but it is possible, you have to help yourself, give yourself reminders to help you change your pattern. If, for example, you are feeling depressed, rather than wallow in your own misery or decide to stay in bed, think what things make you happy, what can you do to make you feel better. Maybe you could listen to a piece of inspirational music, exercise (go for a walk, visit the gym), read something uplifting, write a letter to someone who you know would feel better receiving news from you, watch a funny movie etc. Note: I would recommend that to help you change from feeling depressed you could prepare yourself for such an occasion by having a Feel Good list readily available to remind you. Changing this habit is really no different from moving the furniture around in your bedroom, or moving your cutlery to another drawer. Eventually you will learn the new place.
Don’t wait for inspiration, take action! Action generates inspiration – Frank Tibolt
We know from experience that it’s possible to learn new habits but not that it’s also possible to unlearn habits, even those that have been part of your life for many years, and some perhaps that we even learnt without realising it. For example, as toddlers we may have created a habit, a method to cope with our volatile, abusive, alcoholic parents who might have felt like living on a battle ground where you had to avoid land mines). But even though you may have moved away from that “battle ground” you still use the same old habits. It’s time to recognise that these were useful at the time; they were a way of protecting yourself, but now they are of no use. Now, these habits probably cause difficulties with current relationships or hold you back, due to decisions and unconscious fears, to help you survive, that you made at that time. Can you imagine being told how to live your life by a 4 or 5 year old, or any age really much younger than yourself? Would you listen to advice from someone so young? Would you implement their recommended habits and decisions? No, of course not and yet that’s how you are living your life now ie by decisions you made, habits you created, when you were very young.
Nothing can bring you peace but yourself
Do you believe you can change habits? Well you can, and you do, very often without realising it. How many times in your life have you learned how to use a piece of equipment, such as a computer or a DVD player/recorder and in time you forget how complicated it seemed when you first used it. But then, it breaks down and you have to learn a whole new procedure to work the new DVD player for example. Then, should you by chance come across the old version of your equipment, say a friend of yours has the same model; very often you won’t remember how to use it. And yet, at one point in your life, you hardly gave any thought to how it functioned, you simply pressed buttons without having to refer to a manual. I have certainly experienced this many times myself, particularly with computer programmes. I am sure you are familiar with this scenario, you get to know a version of some software very well and then it gets updated, maybe automatically, and suddenly you discover you can’t find some of the functions you had previously used. Basically you don’t know this version of the software; therefore, you have to learn all over again – until the next updated version.
Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.
I am sure you will have experienced moving things around in your kitchen, or your chest of drawers. How many times have you returned to the drawer where you used to keep the blades for your food mixer only to find they aren’t there, because you moved them somewhere else? Or you’ve decided to keep your underwear somewhere else but initially you keep going to the previous place where they were stored. Eventually, however, you forget where these items used to be stored and only remember the new place.
I dream for a living – Steven Spielberg
And so, once you have learned from your Mind Harmony 4 Life techniques that it’s possible to Master YOUR Mind, you can reclaim YOUR LIFE, teach yourself new positive habits, discard old negative habits and your life will never be the same again.
I do not want to die until I have faithfully made the most of all my talent and cultivated the seed that was placed in me, until the last small twig has grown – Kathe Kollwitz
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